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Should You Be Coming Out As Gay To a Parent?

Every gay person will face the option of coming out to parents at some stage during their lives. This will always be an emotional journey you embark on, so come prepared.

There is no sense in telling your parents you are gay if this only a feeling you are unsure of yourself. In such a case avoid unnecessary stress by rather asking them for help in getting your head around these feelings. They will understand as every person has these feelings at some stage.

In the case where you may be settled into the gay life and want the world to know; coming out may be necessary to allow you the freedom of an open gay life. Again, make sure you know what you feel before talking to your parents. Choosing the right time will make it a bit easier as well.

Many gays make the mistake to tag a friend or even their lovers with them for the coming out talk. This is always a mistake, as your parents will want to talk to you alone and ask personal questions. A familiar reaction from parents is to look for what went wrong and your poor lover may just end up as the escape goat.

Do not expect your parents to shrug and carry on with their lives. You will find in most cases that they will tell you that they knew all along, but wanted you to tell them yourself. Expect emotional moments as they come to grips with this revelation.

First concerns are usually about gay people and the negative connection between their lifestyle and HIV Aids these people suffer under. This is a perfect time to talk openly about safe sex and show your self as responsible in this matter.

Religious issues may come to the surface during your conversation, thus you should be prepared for this. Conservative parents are allowed to be upset, but they may not judge or denounce you as you may share their religious beliefs.

Don’t just talk, listen to them as well as they will want to spell out some rules they may think appropriate. The secret is not to force lovers or guests onto them, rather let the news settle in and wait until they invite another gay person over.

Coming out to parents will always be an emotional process, so remember to be very patients and not to expect instant acceptance. Give the situation some time to clarify in every ones minds.